Are you a people pleaser?

It’s ok to be a people pleaser…. until it’s not ok!

You see if you trace back your ancestry, you will find that most women were people pleasers. They gathered their tribe, their community, they foraged and fed their community, HECK they even breastfed their neighbours baby if its mother didn’t have any milk supply.

So I guess you could say that it is in your DNA to want to please others. You do not need to deny this part of yourself. In fact, it feels nice to help people.

UNTIL…it begins to overtake who you are and what you really want…

Can you STOP yourself from going into your default pattern where you always say YES to everything?

Maybe you could try using a buffer word???

A buffer word or statement could be:
✨ Can I get back to you on that?
✨ Let me think about that.
✨ When can I let you know?

This gives you time to process the question/task being propositioned without you feeling the pressure to say YES all the time.

It also buys you sometime to come up with a polite and thoughtful way of saying NO.

NOs are the hardest word to say. However, if you have a strong YES behind why you are saying NO, then it becomes easy.

Let me give you an example.... If spending time with my family is super important to me and someone asks me to work on a day when I have allocated time to be with my family, then my NO is very easy to say, because my YES to stay with my family means so much more.

If you truly value the importance of whatever it is you are doing when someone asks you to do something else, then saying NO should come easily.

If not, use your buffer word and give yourself some breathing space to work out what it is you want.

You don't always need to say YES!