Three reasons you won’t get a Coach.
In this fast paced world of personal growth and development it seems that Coaching is the new “buzz” word. Everyone wants to be one, famous people have one and the rest of us are sitting on the fence!
What I’ve found over the last few years, is that there are three main reasons why the everyday person struggles to invest in a Coach.
They have no money to allocate to it.
They need to seek permission to do it.
They can’t admit that they have stuff to work on!
Let’s delve deeper into each of these factors and unpack some of these (limiting) beliefs!
I have no money!
One significant factor that may deter you from getting a Coach is the cost! Let’s face it, most of us don’t have money put aside for Coaching. It may not be something you value…yet!
You may have money put aside for your gym membership, your car repayments, your kids tuition fees, your hair and nail appointments but not Coaching!
However, if your TV broke down tonight would you have money put aside to replace that? Chances are, NO you don’t have that cash put aside but I can almost guarantee that you would be online looking for a new one immediately. What kind of TV would you replace it with? I’m sure you would update it? Bigger, better quality. Smart TV etc. you wouldn’t down grade it surely?
BUT where does that money come from? You see, you find the money when something is important to you. What you need to ask yourself is, how important is it to invest in myself? How important is it for me to get clear on what I want in my life, to pursue my goals, to overcome obstacles, to unlock my potential? If you are ready to work on yourself (starting today) I’m sure you can also find that money!
I need to check with my partner
I love this one! This is a classic response when you are sitting on the fence. Needing to seek permission from your partner, friend, neighbour, whoever! Often it’s the partner!
This external validation is self sabotaging. You are not valuing yourself and respecting your own self worth. If you know that Coaching is something you truly believe in and something you could benefit from then take that chance on yourself.
This is what happens when you tell someone else that you are considering investing in a Coach, they will often say:
“You don’t need a Coach, I can help you with that.” OR
“Don’t waste your money on that new age rubbish, it’s all crazy talk.” OR
“Just call a friend and talk it out with them.”
Truth is, when the time comes, this person you had sought permission from will be too busy or will not see things from all perspectives and will generally tell you what you want to hear. They also don’t have the expertise that a Coach does to reset your mindset. Bless them for wanting to help but you don’t need to be rescued you want to be able to save yourself.
While seeking permission or validation is understandable, it’s crucial to recognise that your partner’s perspective may not align with your own understanding of coaching’s value.
Listen to your intuition, trust your gut. If it is indicating that you need a Coach, go and source one! You do not need permission!
I don’t really have anything to work on!
One of the main reasons people don’t get a Coach is because they think they don’t need one!
Many individuals pride themselves on being self sufficient and believe that they can handle their challenges on their own.
Truth is, sometimes you can’t see things that a Coach can. Having that extra set of eyes looking at your situation from all perspectives creates greater awareness and growth.
Engaging with a Coach can be confronting, it may reveal your limitations and areas for improvement. It also forces you to become vulnerable and this can be intimidating. Fear of change and the discomfort that comes with personal growth can act as a barrier and that is (most likely) the reason you THINK you don’t need a Coach!
AS Ex-Google CEO Eric Schmidt said: “You need a coach. The one thing that people are never good at is seeing themselves as others see them. A coach really, really helps”.
Most successful people have a COACH!
